The Dear John letter is a term used to describe breaking up with someone via letter--or these days email or maybe even social media--yikes! It's been a while since I've heard someone mention, a "Dear John" letter but the fact that I know what it means is a bit telling in itself.
What is even more telling is I recall writing such a letter over 25 years ago to a guy I was dating before my now-husband and I became a couple. The breakup wasn't amicable and certainly unexpected I'm sure from my ex's point of view. I'm sure he thought everything was going well and then...BOOM...it was over. Now all that said, I wasn't an adult by any means so I doubt it ended his world or anything like that. But, for me, it was something I needed to do. Although my ex was nice, I knew there was no future for us. Even more so, I also really wanted to be with my now-husband. And after 19 years of marriage I am confident I made the right choice!
In my new novel, Beautiful Nightmare, the main character is faced with a few "dear john" moments where she needs to decide what is best for her life. However, to do so, she has to make some unexpected choices and decisions.
While I'm sure this isn't unique to only women, being Women's Month, I thought it would be good to discuss the challenges we face as women when we write "dear john" letters in our lives that take us on unchartered paths. Often these paths may cause disappointment or disapproval from those close to us, but a path we must take nonetheless.
How would you encourage a woman who needs to implement a "dear john" strategy into her own life? What would you say?
It took me a solid year to create, write, rewrite, and edit my first fiction novel, Beautiful Nightmare. There were days when the words flowed through my fingertips onto my keyboard like a breeze; but not everyday. Even with outlines, targets, character biographies, and pivot charts, my mind often fell blank of creativity. I knew what I was supposed to write, what should come next, but too often I found myself staring at a blank screen.
One day, as I decided to plug in my ear pods and listen to some of my favorite jams while preparing an outline, I found myself thinking of the characters in the book. I imagined how my characters might react to the song or if the song were an anthem itself.
Before I knew it...EUREKA! My creative drought was over! Just as music inspires me while cleaning my house, cooking, or even grocery shopping, I discovered it was just the muse I needed to fuel my creative juices. So, I created a playlist entitled, Beautiful Nightmare. Almost everyday I added songs to the list (I now have 85 songs totaling 6 hours of music!). Each song seemed to represent a character or a scene along the way. Some songs were just the momentum I needed to push me through a chapter or a scene.
Now with the first book of the series complete, I find myself musing and dreaming as I listen to my playlist as a relaxing escape. Only, I just keep telling myself not to dream too long and wake up and finish Book 2!
A few songs on my playlist:
Curious: Do you have a playlist/songs that inspires you? If so, name a few!
L. C Son
Author of Beautiful Nightmare